Tag: Be kind to yourself

Don’t dwell on criticism from anyone who you wouldn’t go to for advice

A short post this week, inspired by the huge amount of keyboard warriors out there these days who appear to think they have a free rein to take to social media and type whatever they like about people, no matter how vile, personal or abhorrent their words may be. It happens far too often and …

Don’t waste time spending time with people you don’t want to be with

The older I get, the more I realise this is really important. Do you ever sit back and consider if you spend time with people you don’t actually want to spend time with? A potentially controversial question but one we do need to ask ourselves. Admittedly, there are certain times when this can be difficult …

The good outweighs the bad more often than not

A couple of weeks ago, Lux Bay played our first gig in 22 months. We’d been practicing for a couple of months beforehand, revisiting every song in our sets to ensure everything would be perfect. Not for us a nice easy lead back into the world of gigging, such as a relatively stress-free pub gig. …

Live for today. Life is too precious not to.

I’ve heard some desperately sad news over the past 2-3 weeks. Two people I know have been diagnosed with a terminal illness. Awful news like this usually results in some self-reflection and soul-searching and I’ve been thinking a lot about this recently, hence the title of this post. In my utopian world, I, my family …

Why ‘Why?’ is the most powerful question

In my previous post, I wrote about how there is really no need to use the phrase ‘It may be a stupid question but…’ and why I believe much of the use of it is due to a fear of looking foolish (even though we don’t the vast majority of the time). Writing that post …

Please don’t use the phrase ‘It may be a stupid question but…’. You really don’t need to.

I try not to use the word ‘hate’ too often but it is warranted every now and again. With that in mind, I really do hate the phrase ‘It may be a stupid question but…’. This is despite me having uttered these words numerous times in the past, both in personal and work life, though …

Why my relationship with food is the most complex in my life and needs to change

I’ve written previously about food, primarily in the posts Using food & alcohol as a comfort blanket (Jul 2019 – link here), Time to change for good, starting with body fat (Sep 2019 – link here), Weight-loss update (Feb 2020 – link here), and The mental health benefits of exercise (Jun 2020 – link here). …

Find reasons to love yourself this Valentine’s Day

Whatever your thoughts on Valentine’s Day, whether you’re a hopeless romantic or you believe it’s an insincere and cynical commercial creation designed to suck yet more money from our wallets and purses, it at least provides an appropriate opportunity to reflect on the theme of love. I’d stick my neck out and suggest that the …

Time moves too fast. Don’t wait to do things – start now.

I’ve previously written about aging and how much time we have in our lives and I’ve been thinking about that again recently, not least because yet another year has passed and we’re already, seemingly in the blink of an eye, 1 month into 2021. Time cannot possibly go by any quicker the older we get …

Life is all about balance and keeping the plates spinning

I’ve come to realise lately, during those rare but important brief spells of actually taking a few minutes to think things over, that life is all about balance; about keeping all the plates spinning at the same time without letting any fall off the pole and smash into pieces. And the key thing I’ve concluded …